Dear Juno, or any other teen in a similar situation,
My mom always tells me that choices that you make in life can be interpreted into two different ways, a good one or a bad one, there is no in between. Honestly, your decision to having unprotected sex at the age of 16 was a very bad choice. Lucky for you, the events following helped you mature in ways you wouldn’t of been able to if you hadn’t had sex and gotten pregnant. I was very proud that you made the decision not to get an abortion. Though some people are against women getting an abortion, after Roe v. Wade it’s a woman's right to be able to legally get an abortion.
Your step-mom said that teens have sex because they’re bored, and I guess no one will know your reasons for having sex with Bleeker but two people should have sex because they are in love, they should know what the consequences could be and they are ready for any outcome. I’m not saying 13 year old kids should be having sex because they’re “in love”, they should really be in love, they should know that their partner is the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with and even if they don’t know they should know that being sexually active is a big responsibility for anyone. That’s why I think anyone who isn’t responsible enough to learn about being sexually active with their partner or be ready for any type of outcome, financially and emotionally, whether you become pregnant or get an STD shouldn’t be having sex. In all fairness most schools don’t educate teens well enough about sex. They don’t tell them how to protect yourself from becoming a teen parent or that HIV and AIDS can be a result of being sexually active, some don’t even offer free protection. States need to have strict guidelines for sex ed and if parents don’t want their kids to be there and they want to, or not, teach kids about sex on their own then they can dismiss them from class.
In conclusion, I’m glad your parents were supportive when you told them that you were pregnant and helped, guided, and gave you advice about what to do. I don’t need to hope that you learned something from this experience because I know you did, just by the way you matured and took responsibility for your actions. I can’t imagine the mental stress these events must have brought to you, attempting to get an abortion then changing your mind, telling your parents about getting pregnant, deciding to give up the baby for adoption, experiencing mixed feelings with Vanessa’s husband, then finally giving birth to the baby you had been carrying for 9 months and not even be able to hold it or say goodbye. I am disappointed in your decision to having sex at such a young age however I admire your bravery and maturity.
My mom always tells me that choices that you make in life can be interpreted into two different ways, a good one or a bad one, there is no in between. Honestly, your decision to having unprotected sex at the age of 16 was a very bad choice. Lucky for you, the events following helped you mature in ways you wouldn’t of been able to if you hadn’t had sex and gotten pregnant. I was very proud that you made the decision not to get an abortion. Though some people are against women getting an abortion, after Roe v. Wade it’s a woman's right to be able to legally get an abortion.
Your step-mom said that teens have sex because they’re bored, and I guess no one will know your reasons for having sex with Bleeker but two people should have sex because they are in love, they should know what the consequences could be and they are ready for any outcome. I’m not saying 13 year old kids should be having sex because they’re “in love”, they should really be in love, they should know that their partner is the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with and even if they don’t know they should know that being sexually active is a big responsibility for anyone. That’s why I think anyone who isn’t responsible enough to learn about being sexually active with their partner or be ready for any type of outcome, financially and emotionally, whether you become pregnant or get an STD shouldn’t be having sex. In all fairness most schools don’t educate teens well enough about sex. They don’t tell them how to protect yourself from becoming a teen parent or that HIV and AIDS can be a result of being sexually active, some don’t even offer free protection. States need to have strict guidelines for sex ed and if parents don’t want their kids to be there and they want to, or not, teach kids about sex on their own then they can dismiss them from class.
In conclusion, I’m glad your parents were supportive when you told them that you were pregnant and helped, guided, and gave you advice about what to do. I don’t need to hope that you learned something from this experience because I know you did, just by the way you matured and took responsibility for your actions. I can’t imagine the mental stress these events must have brought to you, attempting to get an abortion then changing your mind, telling your parents about getting pregnant, deciding to give up the baby for adoption, experiencing mixed feelings with Vanessa’s husband, then finally giving birth to the baby you had been carrying for 9 months and not even be able to hold it or say goodbye. I am disappointed in your decision to having sex at such a young age however I admire your bravery and maturity.
Sincerely,
Gabi P.